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Stop Letting Your Mind Bully Your Body

The whole premise of starting this blog was to spark conversations around health, fitness, food, relationships and more – but not just talk about it high-level. To talk about it in the most genuine way I can.

And so let’s get real about body confidence.

Prepping for my Bikini Competition last year is no new topic to the blog. What is somewhat new, however, is how I became completely obsessed with the relfection in the mirror. My morning routine consisted of waking up, weighing myself, and checking out my abs in the mirror. I’d twist and contort myself into all sorts of weird angles to see how many ribs I could get to stick out. How angled my obliques were. If the scale was even .5lbs higher than the day before, I’d be conscious all day. Wondering, worrying – about how I would lose that half a pound PLUS more.

The saddest part was, nothing was good enough. No amount of leanness or vascularity met my expectations. Even on show day weighing about as much as a Chipotle Burrito (those things are pretty damn heavy, aren’t they?!) I STILL stared at myself in the mirror, wondering if I was lean enough (and trust me, I was!).

Unfortunately I’m not alone in this struggle. Just search on social media and you’ll see tens of thousands of girls taking selfies, twisting and turning to portray the most flattering angles. Eating disorders and obsessive behaviors are a REAL thing in our society. And celebrities happen to be no exception. I recently searched out and found some interesting quotes from some famous celebs who too struggle with their body image:


“I think it’s so hard, not just for me, but for every woman,” Vergara told People Magazine about living up to today’s beauty standards. “Now with the social media and all the craziness with the Internet … you see how women look everywhere in the world. It’s very overwhelming. It’s like, ‘Oh, I should exercise more. Should I eat less? Should I cook more greens? Should I put more makeup on?’ It’s a lot.” She added that she’s found a philosophy that helps her cope with pressure, and is passing it on to her loved ones: “My niece Daniella, she’s 22, and I tell her it’s not about competing with anyone; just try to be the best that you can. Try to be the sexiest that you can, the most beautiful as you can.”


“I stand in front of the mirror and say to my daughter, ‘We are so lucky we have a shape. We’re so lucky we’re curvy. We’re so lucky that we’ve got good bums.’ And she’ll say, ‘Mummy, I know, thank God.’ ”

And if you thought this is only applicable to women, here’s something from a world famous athlete that I found pretty damn surprising.


“I was just never comfortable until about four years ago, when I started feeling comfortable with my body overall,” he told ESPN The Magazine for its Body Issue, which he fronted sans clothing. “As you go through life, you get more comfortable with yourself. It’s like everything else with life – you change, you grow. People might think it’s simple, but for me it was hard to even feel comfortable walking around naked when it’s just me and my wife.”

So it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. Not every day will we feel our sexiest. Feel our leanest. But those are the days a little extra self-love helps. Last week at the end of my yoga class, our instructor said “now is when you need to thank your body. Thank it for showing up. Thank it for being strong. For putting in the work.”

And I did just that. And on the days when I’m feeling anything other than 100% confident in my skin, wishing I were a little skinnier or a little this or a little that, I stand there – naked – and thank myself. Thank myself for being strong. For pushing myself outside of comfort zones. For respecting my body and fueling it well. For practicing self-love when all I want to do is criticize.

We’re all uniquely beautiful and deserve to be told so. Especially from ourselves.





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